"MY LIFE, MY CONTROL"
“Kya kar raha hu yaar main life me uski wajah se? Anxiety itni hai ki hadd nahi. Continuously ro raha hu. But unable to control myself. Kaise bhulau usey?”
Man is a social animal having relationship needs. Staying aloof is practically impossible until the person is insane. But then there is a level of interaction with other people; a level of how much you affect them and how much impact they have upon you. How much ever social you are, you have a time when you want your own privacy intact, where you are with your own self and no one else. The concept of “SELF” should not be erased. This concept of self and self mental peace implies when people start bothering you. I am not saying don’t value your relationships, but be sure that the relationship doesn’t lead upto a pain in your life. “LOVE SOMEONE ENOUGH TO LET THEM GO”. Don’t be obsessed by any relation so much that instead of becoming your strength it becomes your weakness. Relations are there to give us mental strength not emotional breakdown. At a point when you start realising that something is going wrong, try figuring out that very instance. Don’t keep lingering it that it worsens up and leads to feelings of hatred, jealousy, revenge (at its worst). Once you have given in your best to save a particular relation and you can clearly see no future in it, it’s better to let it go.
Letting go doesn’t mean verbally. It should be a total let go, where you are not affected by whatever goes on in the person’s life, neither you try to affect the person in any way. The affect level should reduce to a Zero. Not that you need to stay indifferent, but just stop being affected. If the other person can move forward in life, so can you. And trust me this is not a very difficult task. It is just a thought away. If you think you can, you definitely can. Take time for yourself, live for yourself. Don’t live your life for a second person. They have one, so do you. Live it to the fullest. If this is called being selfish, be selfish. Keeping your happiness in your own control is nothing wrong. Your life, your mental peace, only you are responsible, no one else!!