"MATURITY!"

“Yaar tum bade ho gaye ho. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but yaar ye sach hi hai. Tum bade ho gaye”

It was not his birthday or anniversary and the growing up had nothing to with his age or his height going up. Nor was it anywhere related to his growth in his professional life. It was just the fact that he was talking things that no where matched to his way of thinking and yet he was saying them and too in a way that showed that he meant them. Feeling and meaning every word that you say brings about a change in the perception as well as the belief process. And that’s what made this statement come out.

Having feelings is something very genuine. Wanting your feelings and your expectations to turn into a reality is again very genuine. But then knowing what you want and what is the real life scenario, is what comes under the pursuit of maturity. Loving someone, wanting them to reciprocate, desiring to spend our entire life with that person, infatuating about them the day long, and still being very aware that they can’t be a part of our life for eternity. And gradually making sure that our mind and our heart are in synch with each other. This is where maturity is visible.

When a person is able to attain that situation where he is able to bring the heart and the mind in synch with each other, nipping his own feelings in the bud and showing a fake smile to the world, a fake face, it’s then that the people say that you have grown up. And that’s when apparently we have grown up according to the society, coz we have learnt the art of moulding ourselves according to the society. Being fake is considered being mature and growing up. What a hypocrite world we are living in. Eh! What can be said about it. This is how the world moves. And this is how we keep growing.

When next time someone says, you have grown up, let’s take a pause and analyse, have we killed our feelings somewhere, is it really a complement or a comment upon you!